Another fight?

So we talk on the phone and start to get on another topic of why things are messed up. He called me upset again and finally I told him that I didn't know what to do that he was in control of everything. He got upset and went on about how he was there for me. I asked him how he there for me, he hasnt been here through all this self-destructive behavior. He is so caught up in things that he is really oblivious to whats happening right in front of him.
Now he texts me that im wrong, that I hurt him and he is there for me. I asked him how, I would think I would know if he was there when I needed him or not.